As I sit here listening to one of my favorite albums, Magic Potion by The Black Keys, I had an ah-ha! moment. I had so many dreams walking into this marriage so many years ago. Leigh and I would be happy (and we were, at least I was, through everything), we would travel, I would write my book, we wouldn’t live pay check to pay check like our parents, we would have three beautiful and happy kids, we would move out of Oklahoma, we would start our own business, I would work on nature photography, Leigh was going to build me a dark room, He was going to buy the bike, etc. The dreams go on and on. But now I see that it was only his dream he worked on coming true. He did like every other person did in my life, and told me what I wanted to hear. Meanwhile, my dreams got pushed to the side. Something would come up and I couldn’t work on what I wanted to. I wanted a day to do photography during spring break, but it want important. Leigh wanted all spring break for his Ride’s Edge course, he got it. I mean, I have like a million examples to show how imbalanced it all was.
So, back to my light bulb moment. I’ve decided I have to start living life for me. I want to do things that make me happy. I am going to start writing again, I love it. I want more than anything to become published. That would really be the most amazing thing ever. I want to travel, oh god, I want to travel so bad. England, Ireland, Wales, Scotland, Greece…. I want to see it all. I want to work on my nature photography. I love to photograph nature. I want to get lost in the forests in Washington with nothing more than my camera, extra battery, and several SD cards. I realized that since I couldn’t live my dreams, I lived them through him. I want to ride Harleys and work on them. I know way more than he does or ever will. I’m the kid that sat on her dad’s work table in the garage and handed him tools and parts while he worked and built bikes. I was the one who bought him accessories and parts for the 883. I supported him in his riding. He is what you call a yuppie or a weekend rider. He will never be anything more. He isn’t a biker. Having a bike doesn’t make you a biker. I can tell you now, the man he idolizes wouldn’t even spit in his direction.
I’m done letting a man run my life in the manner that he wants. I’m tired of coming last in life. For now on, I come first. My dreams are important. I’m never going to put myself on the back burner again.
X, K